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Unniappachettan

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on February 12, 2017

The sudden and untimely demise of Unniappachettan last month was shocking and painful. It was a personal loss to me. He was my friend, guide and well-wisher. He was neighbor in my village. But, our friendship and interactions started in 1970 when I was working in Federal Bank and he was working in KSEB in same place. In most evenings we used to stroll together discussing various matters – personal and common. He was a very pleasing, empathetic and humorous person. Our natures were always complimentary. We worked together in the village for the successful conduct of the temple festival when the community was unable to do that due to lack of funds and cooperation. After my transfer to Kolkata we were away for many years. Thereafter we used to meet only when I used to go to my native village for seeing my aging parents. Of course we met during the wedding of our children. He was also abroad for few years on some other assignment. After retirement he utilized his free time in educating young and old. He studied the old scriptures like Vedas and Upanishads and taught others. During our rare meetings thereafter we used to interact on our rich heritage. His erudition of Upanishads has impressed me a lot. Lastly our close interaction was around 2007- 08 when he came to Chennai for the placement of his niece Ramya. This brought our families closely and eventually we could arrange an alliance for Ramya in Chennai. His wife, who was his all time companion passed away untimely in the first week of January. Her sudden death came as terrible shock to him. I was there to console him. Even though he was composed at that time I could gather the deep pain of his mind. Before his children leave after the last rites he could also leave peacefully from this world.  I lost my good friend.

Lord Krishna says: “An erudite person who is a friend to all, seeing all equally and finding God in every living thing will also leave peacefully from this world “. Unniappachettan was one person like that.

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Patience – An effective tool for success

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on January 24, 2017

I used to advise everybody the need for inculcating patience as the most essential virtue in us for peaceful life. After advising others I myself lost my temper the other day while talking to my longtime associate. It was unfortunate that I was not able keep my cool in difficult situations, like I used to do comfortably in my heydays.

I know very well that when you are old your capability comes down and you become less effective. At this point you have to be more patient to have tranquility and peace. Patience will only save you from mental agony when you are aged and isolated. When you are retired from active work your  advices will not be heard by others. Hence keeping quiet and patient will only save you from stress and disturbances.   In fact, all through my career spanning 47 years I could keep calm and unperturbed in any difficult situations. This has helped me to win over many of my seniors and subordinates.

Remember that  Patience is the ability to not be troubled by life’s changes , delays, or other undesirables. It is the ability  to maintain stillness in the midst of disappointment. A powerful benefit in practicing patience is that you cultivate the peace of mind to guide yourself out of these moments. See these moments of self reflection as opportunities to strengthen yourself in self control and grace. Also remember that one of the weapons used by Gandhiji in the war of India’s independence was patience.

 

ATTITUDE

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on December 29, 2016

My old colleague in banking career once asked me this question that how am I continuing in my career with the same enthusiasm for 47 years . Even though I replied casually that it was because of my attitude towards Karma, this question had gone deep in to my mind. How am I not getting tired of this repetitious work ? Of course, it did bore me at times and I used to refresh/recharge myself by taking a break for few days. This was normal with anybody. But, I feel the main reason was the dedication/commitment towards the work. Even though the work habits were same from the beginning of my career, I felt more responsible after starting my own enterprise. Starting with strength of below 10 members in 1983, today I am responsible for the livelihood of nearly 250 families directly or indirectly. This feeling of responsibility is giving me the zeal and enthusiasm for working fresh every day. However, I am very much contented today since my colleagues and children can carry on with the mantle now even without my presence. I learned in my long career that for successful conduct of an organization you need to have some essential qualities.

Firstly, you have to lead from the front. You have to be there with your team and have to be a role model before asking them for discipline.

You should also have integrity, patience and humbleness. The team will honestly follow you if you are leading them with these virtues.

You should win the confidence of the team for the success of the organization.

I feel we can make any job/career interesting and promising if we have the right approach and attitude towards that.

My friend was in full acceptance of my views.

See the Divine light with in you

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on December 27, 2016

There is a story about a gullible person who was returning to his village from a distant place. As it was dark he lighted the lantern. As he was able to see only a distance of 6/7 meters with the lamp he was not ready to move on since his house was kilometres away. He was anguished and started crying. Another person passing by started laughing on hearing his agony. He told the foolish fellow that the light of the lantern will also move with him and he will be able to see the travelling path to reach home. The villager was so innocent and ignorant on this. When the other person explained the fact he came out of the darkness ( ignorance ) in his mind  and could move and reach  home. The villager was not able to see the light within him due to his ignorance.

We endeavour for our happiness. But mostly we end up with unhappiness. If we use our wisdom we can remove this unhappiness. In order to get happiness by any means we deviate from the moral principles and end up in agony. In such situations we forget to use our wisdom and only act upon our desires. An old dialogue between a Guru and his disciple is relevant here.

The disciple asked Guru , what is the best way to achieve  Moksha – The ultimate contentment ? In reply, Guru asked him; ‘How do you see the objects’. He told that in day time with the light from sun and in the night with moonlight. ‘How do you see the sun and moon ?’ asked the Guru. ‘ With my eyes ‘ was the reply. ‘ If you close your eyes , how do you understand the objects ?’ Guru continued the question. ‘ Using my wisdom’ was the reply. ‘ How do you conceive your wisdom ?’ – Guru. ‘ With my inner soul/mind’ – replied the disciple. Guru: ‘Understanding that self – what you came seeking lies within you. God lies within. ‘This is the content of the famous Upanishad statement  “Tattvamasi” – You are that.

 

 

Anger – Your worst enemy

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on July 24, 2016

In our life  there are occasions when we react angrily or retort in a fit of anger . But , the fact is that if we act in a fit of anger we always kill our reputation, ruin our character or integrity. It is told that Anger can make you do things that you will regret. Stay in control of your anger. Do not let your anger control you.

In Ramayana when Rama was asked to go to forest for 14 years by his father , brother Lakshman  in  a fit of rage vows to imprison his father to make Rama the king. But, Rama controls him and tells him to renounce the anger which otherwise would ruin his character. Even in Bhagawad Geetha Chapter II , Lord Krishna explains the perils of the vice Krodha ( anger ). He says that a person loses all his virtues if he cannot control his anger and act upon it. From anger comes delusion and from delusion comes loss of intellect. Hence Lord advises that one should renounce Anger.  Anger can be controlled or totally eliminated only by developing virtues like patience and tolerance. All successful people in life have these qualities.a

In Pursuit of Happiness

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on July 3, 2016

Our life journey is in fact in pursuit of happiness. We work and earn for the ultimate aim of having a happy life. But, happiness cannot be pursued, has to be perceived. Happiness is a state of mind, a state of well-being created by positive emotions.

During the last few years I make it a point to take off from the office routine every month to spend time in my holiday home. The idea is to relax and spend time in the village with the countrymen. I feel contented and feel happy when I interact with them. These moments teach me that the real happiness in life comes when you are modest and unassuming. Here I remember an incident during our dealer meeting several years back at Wayanad. We were having an MD of a leading Ferrous Industry as our guest. After the business session we were visiting waterfalls. I and my manager were walking along with the guest behind the group. The village lads were playing cricket on the wayside with a broken rubber ball. Our guest asked the boys why they are playing with the broken ball which was not moving at all.  They told him that they did not have money to buy a new ball. He gave the required money immediately and asked them to buy and bring a new ball. In the meantime he suggested us for taking black tea from a way side small shop. When the ball came he wanted to take the first shot with the new ball. He enjoyed those few minutes in their company. He did not forget to shake hands with those lads before leaving the place. He told me later that he enjoyed the time with them rather than visiting the waterfalls.

We get happiness when we make others happy. There is a Chinese saying that goes: “If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody. “

MUSINGS

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on May 30, 2016

 

In this advanced electronic age when the young generation is more knowledgeable , it is deplorable  that abuse and disrespect of elders/parents are on the rise . We read everyday news on crimes against parents by children on various issues. Most of the relations  have become money related today including relations between parents and children. Few years back while I was staying in Annanagar  I was having a retired customs officer as my neighbor. He used to come to me for  week-end drinks and chitchat. He used to enjoy those sessions most since he was neglected by his wife and children. While he was in service he used to get very warm welcome from all. But , once retired from service his bad time started.  He was totally neglected by his wife and employed children as if he was a burden to them.  

Another senior gentleman I met in an old age home recently. As he looked more orthodox I inquired about him to the sister in charge. She told me the sad story about him. He was a senior corporate executive retired few years back. After retirement he partitioned his house properties to the two sons and a daughter. Thereafter he used to stay with them alternatively. The wives of his sons and his son-in-law were reluctant to accommodate him for long. He used to hear abuses from them. Ultimately, he reached the old age home where he found solace.

While climbing steps of success in their career many youngsters forget to /find no time to take care of their aged parents. It is sad that some children are not only neglecting their elders but also abuse them. There was an incident in USA where a billionaire philanthropist spent most of his leisure time for charity activities. His ailing mother could not get his attention even.  She used to lose her sleep on many occasions waiting for him to take dinner together. One day when he was very late, the lady asked him the reason for such delay. He told her that he was held up at an orphanage sponsored by him. While appreciating his good gesture the old lady mumbled: ” Please remember that charity starts  at home  “. The son was aghast and wept  silently. Later on he felt apologetic and took care of his mother giving more love and comfort .

We always recount our problems and difficulties to our mother. However, we never ask or try to know her difficulties. While we enjoy late night dinners and parties , she may be keeping herself awake waiting for our return spoiling her sleep/health. As she is the embodiment of patience and tolerance she keeps her difficulties herself. Of course, there are many people who understand this and take care of their parents/elders well.

 

 

Religious Extrimism

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on December 26, 2015

While seeing the religious intolerance all over the world I remember the famous film song written by Vayalar Ramavarma in 1972 which won the national award that year. The meaning of the first stanza will be some what like this :

” Man created religions ; Religions created Gods ;  Man , religions and Gods divided the land and the Mind . “

Even though this was scripted four decades before , this has become very much relevant today. Even in spite of the advancements in science and technology many people around the world are still superstitious or influenced by the wrong side of religious beliefs. In fact the religious intolerance is more rampant today compared to the situation in 60 s or 70 s . Let us hope and believe that the next generation will under stand the folly in this religious extremism or intolerance.

IMPORTANT FACTORS FOR SUCCESS

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on October 30, 2015

When my child hood friend asked me recently the most important requirements for a successful business venture from my experience, I told him the following important factors  which are essential to establish a successful venture .

Attitude

The first important factor for success in any venture is your attitude. You should have a positive attitude in any work/business you do. If you maintain a positive attitude, that will be infectious and those around you will pick up on your positive energy.

Dedication

Many of us have a lot of interests, and we would like to do something with all of those things, but until you become dedicated to one interest and make it work as business model, you will not see success you desire. Your commitment in the business is more important for its success.

Knowledge

For success in the business you lead, you should learn the tricks of the trade. You should understand the special skills and knowledge associated with that trade. This should be learnt from experience to enable you to lead others successfully.

Lead from the front.

You should tune your life style to suit your business. In fact you have to be there in front leading your team. You should always be there in the fore front shouldering responsibilities and encouraging the team. This will inspire the team and will successfully take you to your vision.

Humility

A humble leader tries to elevate everyone around him. If you are a humble leader, you have wider spheres of influence, attract better talent , inspire more confidence and earn more loyalty and respect than other leaders with ego.

I told my friend that the above factors helped me to establish my business and lead the team successfully for quite a long period.

Do not desire anything.

Posted in Uncategorized by K P Ramachandran on August 30, 2015

It is better not to desire any thing. The cause of all miseries from which we suffer is desire. If there is no desire, there is no suffering. But, we all desire for results. When we do not get desired results we feel sad or depressed. 

The old proverb ” Man proposes, God disposes ” by Thomas A Kempis from the ‘Imitation of Christ ‘; and the message by Lord Krishna to Arjuna in Chapter 2.47 of Bhagavad Gita , ” you have the right to work only , but never to its fruits; let not the fruits of actions be your motive, nor let your attachment be to inaction ” are relevant here.

If you desire for results , it can bring miseries if your wishes are not complied with. When we climb stairs of success and reach at the top, we may find that the place we reached is not the one you desired. This is life. Hence, if you want to be happy do not desire any thing, be contented with what you have or what you get.

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